Valentine's Day Special..

Excerpts from an article(Herbert Stein from Slate) from RD-Jan'2000

'The Bible says, "And the Lord God said : 'It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.'" And so, "made he a woman." It doesnt say that he made a pretty or a witty woman, or of any kind-of-adjective woman.He made the basic woman.

Why is this basic woman so valuable to man? Three things:First, she is a warm body in bed. I dont refer to sexual acitivity.That is important.But I referto something that is, if possible, even more primitive:human contact.A baby crying in its crib doesnt want conversation or a gold ring.He wants to be held and patted.Adults need that physical contact also.They need to cuddle togther for warmth and comfortin an indifferent or cold world.The plain woman and the plain man do that for each other.
But conversation is also important.There are couples who have been married for thirty years and they have been talking to each other for that long.One might think that they have nothing left to say,But still they can talk to each other in ways they can't talk to anyone else.He can tell her of something good he has done without fearing she will think he is bragging.He can count on her interest and understanding.The primary purpose of this conversation is not to convey information.Its purpose is to say."I am here and i know that you are here."
Third the woman serves the man's need to be needed.If no one needs you,what good are you? Other people-employers,students, readers - may say they need you.But in such relationships you are replacable at some price.To this woman you are not replacable at any price.That gives you the self esteem to meet the world every day.
So this "ordinary woman"-one like million others in the world-has great value to this man.And while I have written this views from a man's point of view, I dont think the relationship is one-sided.On the sure, I am sure that it is reciprocal.'